Discipline Your Children while Playing with Them
2nd February 2010 by Babies No CommentsDisciplining children is one of the most important jobs we have. As parents, we are ever in control over our kids’ behavior, and sometimes it feels like a constant battle. Maybe there are cleverer ways. There are times in which games work better than punishment, a kind word is more effective than scolding. Here are a few tips on how to do this:
Disciplining while playing:
There is much that children can learn while playing together. They learn to obey the rules, play nice and wait their turn patiently. Occasionaly, they even learn to accept failure. What are those if not important disciplinary concepts. Playtime is a disciplinary tool you should use wisely. Make sure they understand the basic rules of a fair play, and their understanding of sharing and cooperating will lower your shouting levels. Remember, that you must let the learning process happen naturally, without the children’s awareness. As far as they are concerned, this is just a game not (God forbid!) being disciplined.
Take note of their good behavior:
This is something that is true children of any age — it will serve you even when your children are parents themselves: always, always, praise your kids if they’ve earned it. Express your appreciation and let them know how much you’re proud of them. You took Timmy to the supermarket and he behaved himself? He deserves your appreciation: “I had a great time with you today, you were wonderful.” Adam washed the car without being told? Say: “Thank you, you were very helpful.” Remember to look into their eyes as you praise them. If you show your children that you are aware of it when they behave themselves, they will have less need to misbehave.
Behave yourself:
Don’t forget that you are your kids’ role model. After all, the kids’ behavior is influenced by your own. If you show them that you respect and care for others, so will they. If you use polite language and mild tones, so will they.
Certainly, achieving discipline may require other methods. Disciplining children is a complex and ongoing process, and negative feedback is, at times, necessary. However, wouldn’t you prefer saving your energy for the serious confrontations, and use gentler tones whenever you can avoid shouting?
Try it. It works.
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